Thanks for the advice. I don't know for sure she was with him, but she didn't pay for anything and she came home about 2 hours after the restaurant closed so most likely she did.

I have been trying to ignore things like the book says, don't ask questions where she is who she is with, but from what you guys are saying is that I shouldn't stand for this. I thought I could just let it die, but it doesn't look like it's going to so I need to try something different.

I was going to wait to the end of the year to get through the holidays with the kids and also I have legal coverage through work come Jan 1 so that will save me a lot of money.

I think I am going to talk to his wife. We are somewhat friends anyway so it should not be so awkward as a telling a stranger. I think deep down she knows something is going on anyway because my wife and her were friends and now don't even talk.


Me:39
WW: 39
Kids: 11,8,4
Married: 15 years
Together 17 years
PA discovered November 2016
Separated living in same house - ended 1/2017
Separated, kids in house, taking turns staying in house