How Do We Know If Its MLC or If They Are Really Sa

[AndrewP]

Does anyone think that relying on the thoughts that their relationship will fail to enable myself to detach are unhealthy? Are there any pitfalls?

Pit falls, bear traps, all sorts of nasty things go down that path. I know, I've been there already and have the self-inflicted scars to prove it.

On the other hand, I've gotten some excellent advice to "do what works for you" - if that helps you detach, then go right to it. Just remember though - you could also be wrong.

There was a vet here who has now passed on who came along at a crucial time in my own situation, who listened carefully and gave me good actionable advice. One piece of advice that he gave me that I still treasure can be found here and I think it will help you too:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2701609#Post2701609

He wrote to me that it didn't matter what the odds were of any one thing or another happening if you believe in yourself. Believe in yourself and you will get through this. I would also encourage you to read up on something called the Stockdale Paradox. It's helped me and a bunch of other people cope with the time and confusion and pain that we all have gone through.

You can do this. You can be the one.