Maybe just accept the fact you are spinning, you see it, you feel it ... just own it and when you feel yourself spin try to stop, back up and look at why this is. (Triggers get us all) One by one deal with these triggers, nothing will seem to really work at first but for me just owning the fact I was spinning was the first step in dealing with it ... over time it was less and less frequent and the intensity also tapered off.
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Does anyone think that relying on the thoughts that their relationship will fail to enable myself to detach are unhealthy? Are there any pitfalls?
My 2 cents ... at the early stage of the game do what you need to do to detach a bit. Then you can start going about it in a more healthy way ... 180, GAL are good tools you have already read but when we spin its tough. Realize your H is deep in the tunnel and involved in OW, she is absolutely an AD (Affair Down) .... this will lose its luster, a good friend of mine discussing people who date WAY younger said it best "At some point they do actually have to talk to each other" .... not much in common with that gap right?
