Another WW

[Dawgs]

would not expose it to her family. I was tempted to do that with my WW but ultimately chose not to and today, I'm glad I didn't.
Exposing it to OM's W is another story. Some members here (TxHubby) did expose the A and it worked in his favor. But other will say that those that do the exposing tend to not do as well. Exposing the A will enrage your W. It may stop the A but she could also choose to leave and be with him. Ultimately, you would want HER to choose to end the A and not force her to end it.
In my case, I kicked my W out of the house and I THOUGHT we were working on our M because I thought the A had stopped. I found out 2 1/2 months later that it was still going on so I filed for D and planned on exposing it at that time but OM confessed to his W. That ended the A and got my W to start coming out of the fog.
In my case, no one, including my W, can fault me for my behavior during our separation and her A. I was a saint. I was DB'ing and making myself a better man. I am proud of the way a behaved during that time. My W cannot say the same of her behavior.

That's awesome that it worked out that way for you. The first to expose the affair was the OMs wife when she called me. The second exposure was when I had had enough of her family's BS and told her Dad - while I've not heard anything from them (except him), it stopped.

My wife's and the OM's affair was stopped. They paid a steep price for their actions and the ruining of two families. But then again, my ex never once apologized or showed any remorse - but sociopaths don't typically do that, either.

I, too, was a saint and did nothing wrong and I'm proud of the way I handled it. I could have sent the pics/emails/texts/etc to everyone, including her command. And that would have ruined her in more ways than one. But, I didn't.