She was mad at me today and I waited for her to calm herself. We then spoke fairly cordially and she said she is having big issues with domination and giving herself to a man. She said that I am like the goblin king from the movie labrynth. I agreed that I am a forceful person and that she called me correctly. I pointed out that she is like the girl character in that movie in that she doesn't know where her line is and the lack of definition makes it hard for me to be better. she agreed. she is trying hard to make her art profitable and she said that if she was financially independent then she would feel better. I asked her what she would do with this independence when she got it and she didn't know. I pointed out that it was risky to pin her future happiness on money and that she needed to look for a way to feel fulfilled no matter what happened. she seemed to agree somewhat.
So my current self improvement challenge is not to be to dominating but it's going to be hard because it's very subtle. she is already allowed to do anything she wants and there is no sex so I can't dominate her that way. It's pretty much all in my words but we aren't talking about our relationship much so that is a tough one as well.
she said she liked me best when I just seemed kind of moody and didn't try to do anything. I pointed out that if I stayed that way all the time she would not like me anymore. she agreed.
so she feels dominated but nearly anything I do is seen as domination. I have no idea how to address this. I have been using lots of validating.
I don't know if this is a plot or if she is honest but either way this ammounts to me never talking about anything and never having sex.
