Under a Big Umbrella

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Roist - excellent point about the tone being heard and not the message. It's just hard because lately, for some reason, I am feeling a lot of the triggers.

Speaking of which, early yesterday morning I went downstairs to make myself some tea. And there, on the counter was another letter, sealed with my name on it. It looked just like that letter he gave me last year.

I went to the dorm room and told him I did not want another one of his ridiculous letters. I told him if this was one of those this was his chance to take it back. He said he did not think it was something that would make me sad. I said let's discuss it. He said he would rather not as it was not something to discuss rather it was just something he wanted me to know and then he no longer wanted to talk about it again.

Ok. So I left and read the letter.

Remember his loser MLC friend? The one who hit on me and hits on ANY and every woman? Well, in the letter he tells me several things he has done to regain my dignity in this situation. He tells me he had done these things all along and never was telling me he was doing them. He says they weren't really too close of friends, etc.

Interesting. It reminded me of a teen who knows his parents disapprove of a friend. The parents badger on about it and the kids tells them to mind their own business. Then, the kid starts to grow up and becomes embarrassed by this "friend." So he starts to say he wasn't "really" that close with him. But it becomes clear that the kid cares what his parents think of him and his reputation.

I went and said thank you. I don't buy all of it obviously as, the old him, would would have told the guy outright to jump in the lake from day 1. But this conversation happened 20 months ago! It is clear he is concerned with what I think of him, which was the opposite 20 months ago.

Maybe he is starting to grow up a teeny bit . . .