SBJ ... you will start reading a bit more and the further removed you can become the more honest with yourself you can be and look back at the M and have those "A-ha" moments more and more ... then you can learn/change/grow not FOR her, but because you truly see the error in your ways. And understand it was not about one specific thing.... erosion.... is the best way I can put it, over time little by little it goes away and neither side really notices it till all the sudden it just seems to be gone.
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The issue I have is that I always expect people to say if they need something or if they are unhappy about something. I'm not a mind reader
In the MLCr you should have known, she should not have to tell you .... just as you assume she understands your needs though you may not have always been clear and vocal about them.
My M was guilty of this, I mean how could she not know I wanted Lasagna Wednesday night as I was making Garfield references all day?
