So confused

[JRuss]

And I say that as someone who has struggled as much as anyone to detach, mostly failing to date.

I do not understand this last line of yours. Can you elaborate?[/quote]

Sorry, poor dangling "to date" there at the end of the sentence. What I meant was I've failed mostly in my own attempts to detach so far (and I've been at it almost 2 years), so I'm not judging him in any way or trying to pass myself off as a BDing savant. I'm actually pretty poor at it. I felt like my post could come across as preachy if I didn't acknowledge that I struggle every bit as much as everyone else.