what I meant by this is that I aknowledge that my ways of loving her have been ineffective. I am working on discovering how to love her in a way that she can receive. That doesn't really change the task at hand. The OM might be a symptom but I am starting to be pretty sure that he occupies her heart and I don't. So if I am going to triage the problem then I think terminating OM is more important than the impossible task of giving her what she needs right now. I have been working on myself for 8 months now and will continue to do so.
