I am so sorry about all of this. The MLCers seem to choose holidays or special events to drop the divorce stuff on us. Their empathy chips are broken and they don't even think about how this news will impact the family (and maybe they just don't care because they are so miserable). I hope and pray that he doesn't want to continue talking about a divorce until after the holidays.
I am also not surprised that he's leaving a few days after his parents visit. He feels a lot of guilt for what he's doing and he can't face them, you or your family when the holiday season is suppose to be a joyous time of the year. His parents are going to have a lot of info to digest if they attempt to talk to him about his decisions. I feel for them to have to see their son making the choices that he is.
I do hope that you are taking care of yourself. You've got a lot on your plate right now. Please take some time out for yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
