In the UK - PT21 feeling stuck

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In your first post I zoned in on you being done.I think that is best for you now. Just decide what that will look like. Don't let it be an angry bitter place. I don't think you are ready to have a healthy R with anyone else just yet, but yes you deserve better treatment. That day will come.

Don't worry about the reasons W is wanting to go. Maybe she has no other options. Regardless of the reason, I doubt it is to punish you. It is inconsiderate all the same. I can understand that it being far away she wants to make the most of it. Again selfish.


Did ye ever formalise a schedule for kids. If not that is a priority now. Maybe even if ye have to sit down with a lawyer or other authority figure to negotiate THIS Christmas. The vets can say if that is too hard a reaction but you have your rights too.

If you do not manage to negotiate a partition equitable this year, be clear that next year it will be the opposite I.e. 100% with you.

I am sorry you have bad associations and memories of new years.I do agree with the others that maybe you could start anew and create other memories,traditions etc .

I understand your hurt and anger. Hopefully they can serve you to drive your construction of a better life without W. 2017 will be your year and you will make it better.

Best wishes