I agree. I thought my wife was crazy until I got on here and she acts like all the other WW. I don't know how long the affair has been going on for sure. From what I gathered it was about a two month EA and a 6 month PA based on my snooping phone records and going back looking at the calendar on dates she was gone and matching that up with the phone records. The guy is a couple friend of ours so that makes it even harder. I think it got physical after we went on a weekend vacation with them. The night I exposed her she didn't want to give me details because she said it didn't matter if we were just going to get a divorce. All summer since that vacation was miserable. We had the normal talks of no connection , she is not happy, doesn't love me anymore and she didn't have the desire to try to work in our marriage. This was all hard on me and she even went to counseling , not sure for what if she was in a PA. I had asked her to go to MC but she said she wanted to go by herself to figure her out. Since the first night there has not been talk of divorce. The next day I asked her if she was going to stop the affair and she said she didn't know. By the end of the first week I wrote her a letter and she said she knows what she is doing is wrong and would stop it. That didn't last long as two nights later she went out and didn't come home until the next morning . That night I found this site and stopped all pleading, etc and haven't talked much. I feel like our family life is fine at home now things are out in the open and I am not acting like a puppy dog trying to get her attention. Same house, different bedrooms. This site gives me hope, but she continues to talk to the guy. The worst part is I have to see him at many of the kids events. I haven't approached him yet though , we have just stayed away from each other .
