Take a deep breath, relax and don't be so hard on yourself. It's very normal to have some sessions be "flops"...learn to laugh it off. Before I had kids, my W and would see 2 movies a week. Some were great, some ok, and some sucked but our attitudes about the bad ones were not too bad because we knew that it was normal to have a few bad ones. Now, with kids, when we can only go to the movie 4 times a year...we get really freaked out and weird about making sure that it's going to be good and if it's bad, we get really pissed because it took so much effort to get there. My point is this...keep it up. Keep trying. Communicate and play without so much emphasis on orgasms. If you are really feeling like you need one, then try to work with your H to achieve it using other means.
I have found that going down on my W for about 15 minutes then alternating insertion etc. works because she gets the stimulation she needs but also gets to have me inside her.
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