Focus on Me and the Boys 10

[DonH]

I know I've brought things like this up in the past and so have many others but I just really don't get it and wonder if you even realize the contradictions in your thinking. You just wrote, "She is toxic to me and potentially to the boys. I do not want to judge her R with the boys, no longer my place unless it is harmful to them." So you believe she is harmful and toxic to the boys with the 20% or so of the time she sees them - which by the way I'm betting most here agree with you in that - so you want to move them closer to her where she might be harmful and toxic to them 50% of the time? What possible sense does this make? Honestly, help me to understand this. Then you say it's only your place to get involved if she is harmful to them. Again, I'm betting most here agree, but also once again, why would you not only do what you can to protect them but most certainly not facilitate and make it easier for her to abuse them that much more? It's almost like delivering them to the abuse.

Again it just makes no sense so perhaps you can help me and others understand.