I am doing better every day with being happy for myself and by myself, but am I suppose to not love her anymore? Am I suppose to not think about her at all?
I agree that I (and my 3 kids) are the most important people in my world, but I can't shut off a love that I have had for her for 25 years. Now, I can make myself finally realize that I do not "NEED" her to make myself happy and complete.
Keep in mind ... Jack said this .. "most will tell you what you should do but have done exactly as you are doing."
Here is a helpful tip .. you are going to think about her, you are still fueled with all the good in the M, when you catch yourself spinning and doing that look at the clock on your phone, give yourself 10 minutes to do just that .. then drop it and move on, think about something else. Over time this will start to become less and less and you are on your way to detaching.
No one says stop loving .. just love from afar.
I have argued as much as the MLCr rewrites history and holds onto all the bad things in the M, the LBS often does the same with all the good ... there is a common ground there right>?
