Extremely bad experience... can it be saved???

[DBrookie]

Jen...first off...here's a hug. Now take a moment to calm down...God knows I've had the same advice given to me around here lately.

No one thing will save your SSM and no one thing will kill your SSM. (Another thing the folks here have taught me.) He initiated, she didn't have the Big O, and you got upset.

Let's take a look at the good:
- He initited. This should be a BIG sign of success.
- He didn't think he was to blame.
- He tried to empathize with yout sitch.

Let's take a look at the could have been better:
- You didn't O...but there are some hormones to blame.
- You got emotional, but you clearly didn't blame him 'cause he didn't feel responsible.

All in all...I don't think it's as good or as bad as you made it sound. Though I'm sure this was your first outpouring of what happened.

I wouldn't be surprised if the combination of hormones and some situational pressure because he initited threw you off your game. You probably weren't expecting it...and your mind/body was probably focused more on what was happening than what was happening.