In the UK - PT21 feeling stuck

[Sotto]

No worries Huddy. I think it's best to focus on negotiating what works for you and compromise on a way forward here. For example - I understand you want to take them away, but I want to be able to spend some time with them around Xmas. Why doesn't one of us have time with them the early or later part of the hols and meet up to swap on Xmas eve or Boxing Day - or whatever works best...?

Try and let go of....why does she want to go down there....that's up to her. And also, you may need to bend on your own dislike of New Year - and you and the kids could have some nice new traditions if that is the time you spend with them...