Sorry you had a rough day, bsb. We all do I think, especially early on. Fear for sure, it is hard to let go, I mean I will if I have to, but I'm clearly not 100% ready to.

Yes, I will have some time before I reply, she just wants to send it to me first so I can make changes before she serves me, but really I can have my lawyer counter anything even after I'm served, I do believe. I will have to consult with a L and figure it all out. For now, at least until her mind changes again, I have a little bit more time.

Cheesyt, I think she's so off the wall right now, and you're right, I wouldn't believe her. I don't even believe her when she says she hopes I'm doing well. I've been doing so well with this though I hate that I just blahed my feelings today. Sigh. She said she when I'm short as she puts it (like insisting she take my things to her ex-H's house) that I'm "dang near hateful". I informed her that I'm hurt and I don't mean to be rude but I require boundaries for my own sake. She replied that she understands that, but while she didn't truly expect us to be "friends" she hoped WE would check in with each other from time to time. Why would I want to check in with her just for her to tell me how great her life is? Why would she want to check in with me? Is she hoping I'll be miserable and tell her that? Madness I tell you, pure madness.

Speaking of madness I'll post a separate post regarding my SS and the madness surrounding him. Things are in motion that might greatly delay her filing.

Andrew, thank you for all the advice and encouragement. Yes, I did get a bit more time today, at least until she changes her mind again, but I know in bones (just haven't convinced my heart) that I have all the time in the world regardless of when she files for D. I honestly am not sure why I'm resisting D other than fear. I'm not even sure if I still want her as my W, but since I'm not sure I hate to jump the gun so to speak.


Me: 35 W: 32
MR: 2y T: 3.5y
SS11
BD: 11/3/16
EA: 10/26/16
PA: 11/11/16
W asks for S/D & ILYBINILWY 11/13/16
Status: I moved out 11/19/16, GAL
I filed for D: 12/14/16
D-day: 3/10/17