One thing that helped me a lot was to just stop using Facebook all together for about 10 days. I twitched a lot at first but when I went back it was with a (slightly) better feeling of detachment.

Theoretically it adds an aura of "mystery" but TBH I don't think my W even noticed being rather deep in the fog at that time. One thing that I've learned in large part because of the pain of so very many 2X4 strikes - do what you do for YOU. You can't manipulate your spouse in any positive way - but you can screw things up by trying.

On BD
H52, W50
T27, M26
S21, D23
BD-9-Mar-16
D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18
I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good.
But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells