fightin - You don't have to operate on her timeline. I haven't read back in your situation but the word "help" caught my eye. Have you told her that this is what you want?

Take a deep breath, take your time and say that you aren't going to decide anything right away. If finances permit, also say that you aren't going to do anything without consulting with a lawyer. You can often get a free referral.

This is her bus - you don't have to get on. If it's what she wants she has to do all the work, you don't have to help, but again, make sure you know your rights and protect yourself.

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But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells