Thanks guys! I'm doing better today so far.
My counselor and I went over the issues in our marriage. Not meeting her love language and not solving arguments. We just pushed things under the rug and it kept always coming back. I was too controlling and didn't always listen. I see all of this now and I'm working on improving for myself. Just wish the wife would be around to notice. Last time we really talked about things (over 2 weeks ago) she said if I would have realized all this earlier she knows we could be happy. Just hurts so much to know I missed the opportunity by a matter of months.
She is so stubborn and set in her ways now. I just don't see her changing her mind at this point.

I need to stop looking at her fb. I keep waiting for her to take our pictures down and remove me. When we broke up one while dating that was the first thing she did. Guess it's false hope....