Jim, You preserver in the face a huge obstacles. Your ExW is definitely doing herself no favors by being obstinate and selfish. I simply can't get over her immaturity and extreme egotistic nature, the fact that she would let her sons health diminish so she could "prove" they would be better with her is like...whoa! Meanwhile she refuses them access to therapists and doctors so they can be evaluated. This woman is toxic and I am not sure if it's possible to be a friend with someone who would throw your sons under the bus for her own personal gain.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3