Focus on Me and the Boys 10

[J5K]

Thank all for the input. I truly do not want my boys on any meds if XW and I can help it. I do not think that is the answer. A good balance, access to her and friendship with XW are the answer. I cannot change the past, but I can make things better for the boys, regardless of her actions.

I consulted with an L in Ontario and received some very good info. The laws in Michigan are reciprocal with the laws in Ontario. Canadian L could not believe XW left for the past year and has not found a job yet. Canadian L also said there is no such thing as SAHM any longer and that income would be imputed to XW in Ontario courts also. She also stated that if XW would try and gain more than 50% custody she is fairly confident that the courts would not allow that based on my actions of moving the boys closer to build a better relationship with their mom which gives XW access to every other weekend. She thought that my moving is in the best interest of the boys.

I may have to pay some child support to her, but I am willing to do that if it goes to that extreme. It will not be enough for her to maintain the lifestyle she wants and it gives me the flexibility to work some OT when I can so I can financially provide as good or better lifestyle than we had for the boys.

I spoke to my L in Michigan and asked her to move forward with the motion. Hope I can get it submitted in time prior to the courts closing for the holidays.

After speaking with the Canadian L, I am confident I can stand my ground as the 50% parent Toronto and have good representation if required.