Don't misunderstand why I asked you about confronting her. If you confront her about the celebrity, and she admits to texting him, then what will you do? The worst thing is for a woman to know that her H knows what she's doing.....but the H isn't doing anything about it.
A WW may get caught, her H may present proof, and she may admit the truth. However, if the H does nothing but bring her A up in confrontation, she will continue with the activity. Her getting caught, or even admitting the truth does not fix the problem. There has to be more than simply telling her you know she's carrying on a flirtatious A with another man.
That's what I want you and other H's to understand. Confrontation, alone, does not fix the problem. You have to be ready to draw a line in the sand about what you will tolerate. And if she doesn't care, then you have to be ready to respond to her disrespect.
I am not against confrontation........if it is done correctly. My point is, however, that it usually just notifies the WW that the H is aware of her contacts. There has to be more than just notifying her. Otherwise, she will either carry the A deeper underground or continue her contacts right in her H's face.
Does any of what I've said make sense?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
