You are Plan B. While she's infatuated with the celebrity she's not going to be really interested in you. When her infatuation with the celebrity ends, she'll likely move on to someone else. But if she can't find someone right away, she may fall back onto you. Until she finds someone else. She might even stay in the marriage long term for financial reasons, but her heart won't be in it.
You might say it worked great for 18 years, why can't we just get back to how it was? I would say it didn't work great for those 18 years, because the relationship and her feelings for you degraded during those years, til it crumbled. Actually, I would say your troubles began long before that, during your wife's emotionally traumatic childhood.
So, you could do nothing. Things will happen to you and your marriage, as your wife acts upon all that has grown in her heart all these years. Sadly, there is very little you can do to influence your wife, and trying to influence her will only make things worse. She's already accused you of rape and ambush. So, that leaves you -- you're the only person you can control.
This is how I see your situation, and much of it mirrors mine. It doesn't look good, Lex. But I don't think it will get better until you accept that something is terribly wrong in your marriage, that it hasn't been healthy for a long time, and that going back is not an answer because there isn't something healthy to go back to.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
