When H said he was going over to take her the earrings, I said that son and I would ride along if he wanted. H said he would "just run over there himself for a few minutes."
I told H he should have just gotten a card that was from a son to a mother instead of from Us...as I was not welcome over there and his mother was obviously holding a grudge for some reason. H left without saying much.
When he came back shortly thereafter, he ate dinner and tried his best to explain that his folks were just not "comfortable" around me because they knew about some of my behaviours. He explained to them that I had a medical condition called bipolar and that caused a lot of things. I asked if they were comfortable with all of his behaviours and he ignored me.
That pissed me off, but I let it go.
H said he thought he had the folks talked into coming over before they left to see our new decks...his mom had not seen them. As I said above, I would have bet it as if it were a sure thing that they would not show and they didn't.
I don't care though. I like the distance. It allows me to have more time with my H when he is home from work.
I am not going to let them come between us. I will not bad mouth them to him nor will I be anything less than civil to them if they do show up here. I am not going over to their place unless it is unavoidable...I'm sure I can come up with some excuse to stay home most times H goes over there from now on.
