I dont use a computer at home. I am very careful about what I do around her. But not sure I would even care if she stumbled across this forum.
That is the point--do what works--> not what you think... listen to the the people here (not me)
If she finds your posts, she may think you are manipulating her and get more angry or something... you want to be calm above it all with a plan.... keep this work to yourself
even though my W and I have reconciled... or nearly reconciled... I have not shared with her this work... that I had a plan to do something like this.... I think it remains important that she knows and still knows that I will let her go yesterday and tomorrow if we do not have some boundaries in our relationship....
Also, do not spend anytime on the OM.... this is all about your W who will act like a child during this time.... selfish and mean....
What helped me... was I would think about love and if my daughter runaway and did something stupid... when she came home, I would love and take care of her.... (obviously it is not the same... ) but it was a way for me to think about who would take care of in my family even if they did something stupid for awhile...
H (me) 52, W 42 M 15 D14, S12 PA June and Sept 2016 Found out Sept, confronted Oct NC with OM since Oct, remorseful Dating since Nov
