Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 6)

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JR, hey brother. I completely get what you are going through right now. You have the added difficulty of yours being a long battle and it has to be tiring and frustrating.

That said, take a look at yourself in the mirror. Do you see fear? I'd imagine if you really focused on what you've been through (your resilience, your focus on being steady for your kids, your willingness to fight an uphill battle when most others would have quit) you would see how proud you can be of yourself for persevering. It takes a strong man to go through what you've been through and still be fighting.

Recognizing that strength, I think, is key for you. With that recognition comes confidence. Not just confidence in yourself, but confidence that you are prepared for the future and what it may hold for you. It's been 6 months that I've slogged along beside you and we've both had our fair share of ups and downs, but not once have you quit. Take pride in that and know if you can survive this you are prepared to face and thrive in any less difficult situation the future tosses at you!

Easier said than done, but I know you are going to be ok brother. Do things for you and not bc of your W. Do them bc they are the right things to do for the right reasons. To steal from Mules, strength and honor. I'll also add integrity to that. Know that you have those qualities in spades and once you realize it detaching will come naturally I think. Here for you brother! Hang in there!