Focus on Me and the Boys 10

[Painter]

I completely agree with Don. Regardless of the motivation for saying it, the FOC person is wrong. As long as you (the parents) have custody of the children, it's up to you to decide on any medication.

Medicating children is a HUGE decision. It impacts them tremendously and can have consequences for their growth and future. Medical care in the US is a for-profit venture that rewards health care providers for treating patients with medications or tests or procedures.

The children very likely needs some form of support - a group for children of divorce, individual counseling, and ExW needs a parenting class (which both of you should take).