Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 6)

[JRuss]

FG -- My wish for everyone on this site is fewer sledgehammers to the head!

I just got back from IC. I asked her about detachment and said I wanted to work through why I'm having so much trouble with it. Long story short, in terms of cause, the leader in the clubhouse is "fear".

Fear of being alone, fear of the future, fear on my kids' behalves, fear of being replaced, fear of never finding someone else, fear of never being happy (really happy) -- and lots more.

I guess I'm clinging to what I know -- even if it is totally $hitty -- because of this fear of the unknown future. I can GAL and 180 and all of the rest until the cows come home, but until I honestly have faith that things will be "ok", I'm likely going to stay (unhealthily) attached.

Lots to think about.