I have a W who is willing maybe even wanting to spend time with me and at the moment I cannot stand passing time with her. I am getting angry sitting next to her on the couch. Really mad angry. I think this anger is more so at me than her.
This sounds like resentment. Not a good thing. Probably be good for both of you if you spent less time on the couch.
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At the end of my last thread FY asked some good questions. A short answer is no I am not happy or excited by the life I live, though motivated by it's potential. I am not interested in trying to be more interesting/exciting to W.
What hobbies, sports, or projects do you enjoy? Reading? School? Work? Helping others? Hanging out at the strip club? (just kidding!) Nows the time to dive in. Keep trying different things until you find the right one. When you wake up in the morning with a passion to go, you found it. We can't wait for our spouse to make us complete, we have to do it ourselves. Remember the line in the MLC section of DR where Michele says we'll have to find our own goodies?
While we do this for ourselves, not our spouse, it does make us more attractive.
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Can I ask a question of those who read my posts but don't post, why is that? I read many without posting so I am not critical, just curious.
I know for me I find it easier to relate to situations similar to my own. When someone's situation is much different than mine, it's difficult for me to relate, (having not been there) and near impossible to offer meaningful advice. Maybe that's what you're seeing here. I do know that many wish their spouse was at home with them, with no OP in the picture. Painful as it is sometimes living with our spouse when they are not "in love" with us, we are both very fortunate.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
