Leaving Castle Caladan

[Painter]

Zues, tricky situation and you have done a fantastic job dealing with it so far. I am a little surprised at your mother's hard line on this. She's an adult and she should be able to control her outbursts or statements. I can understand the second instance if she really didn't get how something could be construed negatively, but she should understand that if she otherwise makes negative statements, anything she says will be scrutinized and seen in that light.

Your mother needs to put your children first. Her Facebook page is obviously not set to private since Ex could read it - which means the kids could somehow come across it. Go over the privacy settings with her. And tell her it's like nude photos. Once they exist, anyone can send it anywhere. Nothing is private on the internet.

Negative statements about the children's other parent is actually parental alienation. I'm sorry you have to deal with this, and I think your mother is wrong here and needs education on how this affects the children. When she criticizes their mother, she also criticizes them because they are half their mother. They have no way of defending themselves. Maybe your mother needs to read a book about PAS, partly to get tools for how to deal with the things Ex does that she disagrees with.