Thank you Sotto. Yes it is good to have the views of others.Somettimes my issues seem petty compared to others so it was nice to read you acknowledging how hard it can be. Thanks. Plus I have always valued you as a poster, albeit mainly to others.

FY is awesome and I am glad to have his insights. His story scares me a little too. I have read all his threads and commend him immensely for his stamina. Our stories differ but his approach and attitude are worth emulating.

I would not have lasted as long only for I realised it is my choice to stay. I choose to stand and hence I am responsible for continuing to endure sub perfect conditions. Having to and choosing to are completely different.

Thanks job also for linking my threads.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together