Thanks cheesyt! They should feel guilty, I guess if they actually do then at least we know there is some semblance of a human soul in there. Selfish doesn't even begin to cover the scope of how cold and self-centered they can be; I feel like it needs its own new word. Ha!
Yes, our world no longer revolves around them and it drives them crazy as it should. Let them see that we can be better off without them. I'm sure they can't stand it. Thankfully I have been pretty good throughout at making sure I don't give her any ammo to blame me, sure I have my part in the deterioration of our M, but her affair and awful behavior toward me is something she will have to own all on her own. I'm not going to be hateful to her, but I'm not going to be her friend either. I have my moments where I kind of do hate her, but I don't say it to her.
Our spouses will have to see themselves and their actions for what they are without being able to point to us and say we've behaved poorly throughout this. You hang in their too, and so sorry to hear about your father.
Me: 35 W: 32 MR: 2y T: 3.5y SS11 BD: 11/3/16 EA: 10/26/16 PA: 11/11/16 W asks for S/D & ILYBINILWY 11/13/16 Status: I moved out 11/19/16, GAL I filed for D: 12/14/16 D-day: 3/10/17