Two nights ago the wife was laying close to me and we were touching. I put her hand on me and we ended up masturbating together. I was laying on my back and was as neutral as possible. This morning she said that she felt ambushed. I tried to validate her feelings even though I did not feel like I was aggressive with her. I said that it was not my intention to make her feel that way and what could I do to prevent her from feeling that way in the future. She said that she needed more time. I asked if "given enough time" would we eventually be ok. She said yes so I renewed my promise not to talk about us or attempt to have sex with her for December. It all seemed genuine to me but of course I still have fears that I am being used. I plan to keep my promise for another month so I will wait at least that long before doing anything else. I hope that I am making a wise choice.
Last night she laid close to me again and rubbed on me and we talked about light fun things and I made her laugh several times.
I am keeping my expectations to zero as best as I can. Going to concentrate on reassurances and compliments this month.
I want to thank every poster in this thread. Having an outlet is really helping me keep my emotions together. If anyone has any further thoughts about my situation then please feel free to post.
