Westo - I thought I'd just pop around to say "hi" and to thank you for your earlier visit to my thread and your very supportive comments. They brightened my day, especially the persistence that you showed. I can image that you can be a "force of nature" when you are on a mission.
This is a tough season for all of us both here and those who we love who are not here. I know that I swing between tears and joy, hope and despair fairly often myself. One thing I did long ago when I had hopes that reconciliation would happen "any day now" was make up a list of "triggers" such as particular songs, places and other things that are perhaps odd to outsiders that I was worried would trigger anger or grief. Against each of them I noted how I would deal with them - so I jump out of the shower to turn off the radio when a particular song comes on. Against many of the things I wrote "just deal with it" too.
It's OK that your SS triggered some sadness - it's part of the journey that we all are taking through grief. Perhaps next time you can think about how much he sounds like H and remember the good times and feel joy too.
Take care
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
