I'm thrilled to hear you trashed your D papers, that is great news.
As for you being unreasonable about not wanting your H to drink at home...the answer is of course it's okay for you to ask him not to...HOWEVER....think of his bring beer into your house as his unconscious test of YOUR RESOLVE to NOT drink. Remember, he's heard all the promises of sobriety before and watched you slip so there's really no reason YET for him to be convinced that you won't slip again.
The fact is, that when YOU own your sobriety, you could walk into a bar room full of drunks and not have the thought to pick 'one up' ever cross your mind. So don't let his drinking (if it's not a problem for him) become a deal breaker for you.
I wouldn't have taken a drink if my life depended on it the first few years my H was sober, but then, I realized that his sobriety was HIS and ONLY HIS responsibility and so now...on RARE occassions at a social gathering I do enjoy a cocktail and it doesn't phase my H at all.
