Hi Akgal - Lots of positives against one tough negative. Looking good, my friend. Please keep posting these positives, it makes us all feel better
I hope I'm not wading in with size nines, I've not gotten caught up with your complete history. Here goes...
Quote: Got out of church, H had bought six pack of beer. I told him I didn't want to fight about it. I wouldn't sit with him and watch Sopranos while he was driniking, though. I took a shower, climbed into bed, and watched Sopranos from there. H looked in puzzled. I told him I was going to sleep so might as well watch tv in bed.
Did this draw him closer to you? I remember the rows mum and dad used to have over his drinking, he just moved from drinking at home to drinking away. So then mum did not see him, AND he was drinking. With my uncle's help, she cottoned on, and started drinking with him, for company. She was always ill the next day, but dad slowed down for her, and eventually (after about 6 months)they both settled on one glass of red wine with dinner every night. Again, I'm not sure of the history here, but entrenched positions are tough to climb out of.
Could altering his drinking habit be a long term goal, with maybe 20 baby steps on the way, so you have progress to celebrate every week? Just a thought. Hugs, Slowly
