Dude, you are spinning. You have to change your whole approach. Avoiding contact is for YOU, not for HER. You have to heal, and boy do you have some healing to do. This is nothing personal aimed at you, I just know how you feel. We've all been there. You are looking frantically for that silver bullet, that one action or word that's going to "fix" this. News flash, there is no silver bullet. And the sooner you come to terms with it, the easier it will be on you. We all have had to come to terms with it. Some were stubborn and it took them longer. Nothing wrong with it, we all have our own pace. We all thought our spouses were different and they wold just snap out of it. The vast majority of us were wrong.
And another thing, do not presume you know what she is thinking, hell you can't even trust what she is saying, and mind reading is a totally futile exercise. I know you are watching her every move and your mood swings wildly, your mind is going into overdrive. STOP! Please be aware the situation will likely deteriorate, before it gets better.
