Ah man, they feel guilty. They're selfish. They only care how they feel, not how YOU feel. Your w trying to play friends is her way of feeling less guilty, like ohhh I can have an affair screw up her life and oh man she still wants to be friends, and come pick up her clothes and perhaps small talk with me, this is great!!! Ummm no. These waywards are under the impression the world and our world revolves around them and we will still do anything to keep them "happy" they seriously hate when we don't, & who cares! Cus our lives no longer revolve around them. Good job on your text responding and not telling her you don't hate her to ease her guilt. Let her think that, especially if you've never said "I hate you". They should feel like we hate them, idk why we don't but damn. They really push the envelope eh. Hang in there way to stand your ground and not give in!