Rouky, thank you for the kind words. H isn't a violent person... I was in a different room when he put his hand through the wall.
KML, you're right. I do have a lot of deep anger towards H. But I don't think I take out my anger for him on his family....
Wednesday night Lilly's gtube got caught on the couch and it came out. The balloon popped & H took her to the ER with the emergency kit to have them put in the new one. Local ER said the hole was closing & called children's hospital 3hrs away for instructions. They wanted her transportated ASAP & hooked to iv dextrose to maintain blood sugar. They were planning surgery as soon as she arrived so nothing by mouth. As the ambulance was prepping to take her I'm at home with the other kids (because no one in H's family can stay with them). I'm also getting text after text in a group text message about H's brother & his girlfriend who announced they are pregnant on Thanksgiving. Everyone is discussing the name they gave the embryo (not the actual name for the baby). I was frustrated beyond belief that people who couldn't even send a "hope Lilly is ok" text expect me to give them attention?!
Oh & this brother is the one who has been to jail for selling drugs.... he **only** sells pain killers now (and has no drivers license)
KML, you're right about nothing good comes from making him choose.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction