Twinmom- There's really two issues here and you need to keep them separate. I'm afraid that you're taking your (justifiable) anger towards your H and displacing it onto his relatives.
It's common - after all, you still need and want your husband so it's dangerous to direct your anger at him. His family are easy targets.
Nothing good will ever come of making your husband choose between you and his family, or of being resentful towards a two year old for her parents choices.
I think the real issue here though is the real and deep anger towards your H.
