Pinn and Roist, my D is very good at dishing out the 2x4s for sure and they are never padded or soft always hard and to the point!
Blu, great to hear from you! Yes your right I think this was a 180 for me. A lot of the anxiety I was feeling was because I felt I couldn't express my disappointment with how H was treating me and D since he left. I was off course annoyed that I had cried and wish I was a little more controlled but I had so much pent up emotions cel I started I just couldn't stop. However I definitely won't make a habit of doing that again! I think DB is great as a guideline however as you say each sitch is different and so are the two people involved. Assessing and adjusting to suit you and your sitch should also be a really important part of DB'ng.
I have a question - one of the reasons why H said he had to leave was because he wanted to be on his own and be able to see his friends whenever he wants like packing to go away for the weekend at the drop of a hat blah, blah, blah. He assumed he would be able to achieve this because a) D is not his biologically and b) because she is older and doesn't need so much looking after. Do you think we have made it too easy for him to achieve this lifestyle by not setting a proper plan for him to see D? At the end of the day if we had a child together he wouldn't be able to achieve this fantasy anyway. I'm annoyed that he assumed he would be able to have as much freedom as he liked and just leave all the parenting to me!
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
