Regardless, I did tell her that I wasn't going to communicate about a relationship while she was seeing someone regularly and exclusively, and calling them "dates". She actually said she wanted to see me, but didn't want to hurt OM - basically she was calculating how to have BOTH of us.
So, I went dark.
Got no response. Didn't really expect any, but it [censored]. Weird to me how she used to be the most loving compassionate kind person, and then kinda just goes dead. I guess the "alien" concept really applies...
How is it that you perceive that she was a loving compassionate person when she was calculating how to have two partners?
I read manipulative selfish person in your statements...
bippy, As I read your thread I perceive that you may need to do some more work on yourself and really understand dbing.
I have seen comments from you that indicate book knowledge, but your actions are speaking louder... You indicate you are a rescuer... You indicate that you understand that this issue is hers... You say you went dark, but you send a text with an expectation... You should be moving on and focused on you, but you share much thought swirling about her... She is clearly not in a good state of mind for a healthy relationship, yet you want to continue after her.
I don't see that you indicated how long after your mMR with xw, that you moved into a relationship with this one? How long was it. Be honest and step in front of a mirror and ask yourself..." Am I ready to be in a relationship or do I have some more work to do?"
I am not judging, but I see many fail to do the work on themselves before jumping in again...perhaps this is why 2nd marriages have a higher D rate...?
I wish you luck, but thus far I see a very cheeseless tunnel in your thread here, and you have set up camp.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
