I read somewhere that hate is not the opposite of love, "apathy" is. It is some kind of wonderful to not have that gripping paralyzing panicky pressure to "save my marriage" - I get that wonderful feeling of peace and relaxation.
But I would remind you that in many of our cases, that's what the WAS felt; and why we changed to try to save the marriage. Are you in danger of becoming the WAS yourself? More rhetorical questions than expecting hard answers, but certainly a perspective to consider...
