I practice judo 2 times a week and work out 2 times a week. other than that I spend all my time on the wife and kids. I'm getting the feeling from reading these forums that maybe I don't have enough of an independent life. I never felt strange about this though. I like spending all my time with the family. years ago I had my own business and the wife worked with me and we were together almost 100% of the time. We did that for 3 years and I loved it. I've been thinking about it and I'm not even sure what I would do independently.
I can relate to a lot of this. H and I would have both said we loved spending all our time together.
What we discovered is that for me, as much as I love the emotional connection of being together all the time, when it comes to sexual desire, I need some distance. I need some uncertainty.
It can be tricky to introduce some of that sexual tension and distance in a committed relationship. There's a reason most love stories end when the couple gets together.
I also think it's a bad idea to say, "she must like it because we did it for 18 years." People change. If you want your relationship to thrive over the long run, you have to allow people to change.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
