Hi there. I've been meaning to tell you: I actually love that you finally gave H a piece of your mind!!! If I recall, you had never expressed your dissapointment to him, understood why he left, and it has been eating you up inside. I think some call it white anger, and if channeled correctly, can be very effective.

You see we focus so much on DB principles here--detach, GAL, 180, no R talks--that at times we may lose sight of the individual variations in each sitch. Now if you were doing this on a daily basis and lashing out, we would all tell you to stop and put the brakes on. You don't strike me as that type of woman at all. Coly, was this perhaps your 180? You stood up for yourself and said enough is enough!

I totally agree with the advice you are getting tho. Keep your expectations as low as you possibly can. Try your best to keep your focus on you and D. Keep up the self care and GAL actvites. Always value yourself more than the M. You will be fine in life with or without him!

(((Coly)))

Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela