A very positive outlook will always serve you well. I do think this is part of the problem we all suffer. I can't imagine any LBS looking back and seeing a spouse that was optimistic. Perhaps you are right 'deserving happiness' vs 'being happy with what you have' is an interesting point. I am going to try to focus on this.
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