This old spouse, lmfao, doodler you are too much...
It really is ridiculous that my state doesn't have legal separations, so for me to remove my legal attachment to her and any debt she accrues I have to pay the fees and file all the paperwork... She could literally not do anything, doesn't even need to respond to the serving of papers, I would be able to end the M, but at my expense and effort, even though she's the one that gave up.
Ugh...
Hey buddy. I'm sorry. It's a bummer. I think when we are in the thick of it, there is this high energy that keeps us fueled. Then when things settle down--with or without them back--we eventually reach a place of despondency or a dull numbness.
I know you say that she is the one that gave up, and she wasn't willing to quit the fire dept. Do you think she would agree with that? I mean maybe she will come around eventually? She may just not be able to meet your terms.
Does it hurt to leave things as they are for now? There might be some relief in completing the D process, but I'm not sure it would make much difference to leave it alone for now.
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
