This makes me think you are planning to keep the status quo.
maybe I am foolish but I liked the status quo. We did it for 18 years so I felt like she must have liked it as well.
Thats not what I meant.
She told you all of these terrible things. Said she hates you, etc. And yet, you are coming home dutifully every night to participate in 'family time'. Now that shes turned away when it's just you two, you go off by yourself feeling frustrated and sad.
I advised you to start looking into really starting to GAL. These are your words:
Originally Posted By: Lex23
I'm getting the feeling from reading these forums that maybe I don't have enough of an independent life. I never felt strange about this though. I like spending all my time with the family.
the wife seems to like this state of affairs as much as I do.
If not for the coldness at night you would not even know anything was wrong at my house. we are still doing our daily routine together. neither I or my wife has expressed any interest in doing things apart.
So if youre going to keep up with doing everything together and then going separate ways in the house at night, fine....but I dont think that will cause her to actually make any changes. For example, I think you need to have a discussion about household chores. I think you need to start actually GALing. And so on. Frankly, judging by what youre saying, it reads like you are allowing yourself to be a doormat; not someone that should who is respected and attractive.
